Are Black women giving up on Black men?

Are black women giving up on black men?

Not from what I can see, or from the simple statistics that would seem to communicate an actual reverse trend: more black men are dating white women then they are black women. But anyway, here’s the link to an article by the folks at the New Pittsburgh Courier Online asking the question.

Black Woman Exhibitor At Push Expo, An Annual Exhibit Of Black Talent, Black Products And Black Education In Chicago, 10/1973

‘Imagine a Future’ sheds light on black women and internalized racism – The Root DC Live – The Washington Post

‘Imagine a Future’ sheds light on black women and internalized racism – The Root DC Live – The Washington Post

‘Imagine a Future’ sheds light on black women and internalized racism – The Root DC Live – The Washington Post.

This is an important piece, as it’s a vitally important topic, for black women (and for that matter all people of color) to realize that they live in a racist culture and have been being programmed with racist ideologies since before they were born; it’s in their great

grandparents’ and is passed down from generation to generation as a means by which to control a passive masses.

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Good morning, my sister!

Dark, light, it makes no different to the Source, the Creator, God, Dios, or whomever you believe in, or to science if you’re an atheist. Scientifically, it’s been proven and re-proven that there are no biological bases for racism in science – but there sure is in mental illness.

Black Woman Pretends to Be White, Job Offers Skyrocket!

Interesting and very revealing.

It’s a sad statement on our society that a black woman who can’t get a decent job offer has to pretend to be white in order to be judged fairly…but for anyone stating that discrimination is still not a strong factor, think again!

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She may be qualified and attractive but she ain’t getting the job. But we’re not racist.

It works across the board: black women being denied jobs on the basis of their ethnicity or racial identification is, unfortunately, nothing new.

How do you combat it? it depends. What are some strategies used? I’d love to hear input from readers. I’ve heard of people changing their names, refusing to self-identify, and then going to interview…but how to do you cope with a situation hard-wired against you? Just apply at “black” companies? If you’re a black woman do you apply only at companies run by black women? Typically people hire those who look like they do and act like they do so they can create social networks…so where does that leave those seeking to get a fair shot?

Singer Jill Scott Says Her “Soul Burns” When Black Men Date White Women

I’ve never met Jill Scott.

Can’t say as I really expect to ever meet her and can’t say as I really want to. I may have one of her CDs in the car somewhere under a magazine or stuck between car seats somewhere.

I’ve read in many websites, blogs, and seen in other media that Ms. Scott fundament apparently burns like fire when she sees black men dating white women and she apparently feels that it’s wrong for a black woman to date any type of man other than a black man.

English: Jill Scott Performing at the 2007 Bla...

English: Jill Scott Performing at the 2007 Black Lily Film & Music Festival (World Cafe Live) (Photo credit: Wikipedia). Is her music for only certain types of people? Would she want interracial couples grooving to her CDs? Read on, true believer, and you tell me.

Now Ms. Scott is an adult and is entitled to her opinion. But is she entitled to voice her views as she does when she is obviously rich and clearly has the media’s ears and eyes trained on her. Is this description of her views entirely accurate? If it is, isn’t that what you’d consider racist by any other accounts? And it sure as slap-happy-pappy ain’t no pappy of mine ain’t exactly fair or equitable if it is descriptive of her views toward gender and race. If it’s true, then her behind burns when black men date white women, but it equally burns when anyone who doesn’t look like immediate family members date. And the media loves her, nor does it debate her views or explicate them.

Here’s a link to a recent editorial on Ms. Scott – here.

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Deluxe edition (Photo credit: Wikipedia). I guess she ain’t down with vanilla creme. Or maybe she (secretly) is?

Now, according to the quote from this blog, Ms. Scott’s comments sound kind of ……..racist.

If black men want to date white women (and believe me, they are doing it whether she likes it or not), black women should free themselves to date whomever they wish, and anyone else should be able to date whomever they wish. True?

Celebrities wield incredible power to influence in our media-driven culture. If a popular celebrity wears something we all see it the next day. Daymond John, the brilliant founder of FUBU will tell you that celebrity culture in large part propelled the success of his clothing lines and brands. He put his clothes on LL Cool J (back when LL was still rapping and touring), and his brand shot up. So if Ms. Scott discusses racist feelings, doesn’t she do more harm than others of similar views who aren’t rich and of celebrity status?



English: This is a photo of Daymond John, FUBU...

English: This is a photo of Daymond John, FUBU CEO, speaking at an event. (Photo credit: Wikipedia). We’re just putting this photo of Daymond John here because a) we dig him and b) we can.  Love, Peace, and Hair-Grease, brothas and sistas.


Beautiful Black Woman of the Month: December 2012

Beautiful Black Woman of the Month: December 2012

I was reading online, just perusing as they say, to see what there was online under the search term “beautiful black women,” or “fine black women.”

I’m happily married to a beautiful black woman myself, but I was searching for what other, related online publications were doing, ways to boost readership, and so forth. And curious. Other magazines have their hottest “man alive” thing going on and other magazines have their most beautiful woman of the year; but nothing about black women. Ever.

Surely, I was thinking, there would be a huge number of photos immediately popping up of stunning, heart-stoppingly beautiful black sistas that would make an old timer jump out of his wheelchair or make a crippled man walk again.

To my surprise and dismay, as I typed in the search terms, more terms for men came up than women, and as I continued to type the search terms (and you know how Google Images will complete the search term for you?) nothing came up. I kept typing up “Beautiful black women,” and then “Fine black women.” Apparently not too many people, men or women, search Google Images for those terms. Wow!

After a minute or two, the first image to appear was of this woman, super model Joelle Kayembe, from Africa:




What really hit me like a two by four between the eyes was, look at this photo for a minute, one of the first comments in the blog featuring this photo criticized this model for having straightened hair and contact lenses. Give me a freakin’ break!

Women, you know if you can do this, what Ms. Kayembe is doing in this picture, no man is going to complain.

At least not if he is sane and straight. Men, if you saw Ms. Kayembe doing this in front of you, you would not be complaining to her, asking her not to wear that wig or not wear those contacts. Please get real. You’d fall over or lose your mind, one of the other, but you sure as all heck would not critique her hair style or contact eye color.

Now watch these videos:

Tell me, after watching these videos and carefully scrutinizing this photo, if you approve of Ms. Kayembe. Is she okay with you? Men, is she too skinny or too dark? Her hair too straight?

Please. If most men saw her while they were driving around town or at a grocery store, they’d turn their heads so fast they’d get whiplash. And women would look at her and say “yes, she’s pretty.” What’s really going on that this super model is criticized for her hair or eye color?

It just truly struck me how there were no Black Beauties of the Month anywhere online that I could find, anywhere! There used to be magazines like Jet that would have such features in their print publications, but nothing online. No “black beauty of the month,” no “beautiful black woman” of the month, and nothing like it online.

Am I way off the mark here? If I am, where is the website that serves this goal? Do we need that feature here? Where are my beautiful black sistas online and how do they feel?


JOELLE KAYEMBE (Photo credit: Kalumba2009). Men, if you stare at this photo long enough, it will cure ulcers, increase physical stamina, and lower blood pressure. And women, this is quite simply how you should dress. All the time. Honest.