I’ve never met Jill Scott.
Can’t say as I really expect to ever meet her and can’t say as I really want to. I may have one of her CDs in the car somewhere under a magazine or stuck between car seats somewhere.
I’ve read in many websites, blogs, and seen in other media that Ms. Scott fundament apparently burns like fire when she sees black men dating white women and she apparently feels that it’s wrong for a black woman to date any type of man other than a black man.
English: Jill Scott Performing at the 2007 Black Lily Film & Music Festival (World Cafe Live) (Photo credit: Wikipedia). Is her music for only certain types of people? Would she want interracial couples grooving to her CDs? Read on, true believer, and you tell me.
Now Ms. Scott is an adult and is entitled to her opinion. But is she entitled to voice her views as she does when she is obviously rich and clearly has the media’s ears and eyes trained on her. Is this description of her views entirely accurate? If it is, isn’t that what you’d consider racist by any other accounts? And it sure as slap-happy-pappy ain’t no pappy of mine ain’t exactly fair or equitable if it is descriptive of her views toward gender and race. If it’s true, then her behind burns when black men date white women, but it equally burns when anyone who doesn’t look like immediate family members date. And the media loves her, nor does it debate her views or explicate them.
Here’s a link to a recent editorial on Ms. Scott – here.
Deluxe edition (Photo credit: Wikipedia). I guess she ain’t down with vanilla creme. Or maybe she (secretly) is?
Now, according to the quote from this blog, Ms. Scott’s comments sound kind of ……..racist.
If black men want to date white women (and believe me, they are doing it whether she likes it or not), black women should free themselves to date whomever they wish, and anyone else should be able to date whomever they wish. True?
Celebrities wield incredible power to influence in our media-driven culture. If a popular celebrity wears something we all see it the next day. Daymond John, the brilliant founder of FUBU will tell you that celebrity culture in large part propelled the success of his clothing lines and brands. He put his clothes on LL Cool J (back when LL was still rapping and touring), and his brand shot up. So if Ms. Scott discusses racist feelings, doesn’t she do more harm than others of similar views who aren’t rich and of celebrity status?
English: This is a photo of Daymond John, FUBU CEO, speaking at an event. (Photo credit: Wikipedia). We’re just putting this photo of Daymond John here because a) we dig him and b) we can. Love, Peace, and Hair-Grease, brothas and sistas.
Do Asian Men like Black Women? And if they do, to how great an extent?
Well, we don’t know (at least not yet) what the numbers of AM/BW couples are, or what percentage of interracial couples are AM/BW, but they’re definitely out there.
Here’s an adorable YouTube series that certainly never got the attention it deserved, called Audrey and Dre, about a charming AM/BW couple (and not only that, but they can dance, too).
Let us know what you think:
Here’s the “mobisode” preview:
Episode 13, the Finale!!
Jerry “JT” Tran is quite simply a “mack daddy.” He has transformed his own life and has successfully built a financially rewarding career out of helping others do the same thing; by teaching otherwise shy or reserved men the secrets to
JT Tran (Photo credit: Wikipedia). Smooth like butter, baby.
He’s been called everything from the “multicultural pickup artist,” (from his corporate website The ABCs of Attraction), to the “Asian Playboy” by television programs on NBC and ABC.
JT Tran has bootcamps across the globe; training men in New York, LA, Boston, and Toronto.
He’s written books, has multiple offices, and has built an empire to envy. He’s even given lectures at great ivy league institutions such as Yale University, the University of Chicago, and Wharton’s School of Business.
Interrace Today recently interviewed Mr. Tran to get some background:
1. You started out as a spacecraft systems engineer. How and why did you transition from such a highly-specialized technical career to what you’re doing now, (which is also a highly-specialized career)?
JT: I was a very traditional Asian son. I studied hard, went to college, and got a job.
Over time I realized I wasn’t really advancing in my job place even though I was busting my ass and seeing my peers surpass me, not through quality of work, but quality of their networking abilities.
Everyone around me seemed to be getting promoted for doing less work. I began to realize that this was because I was Asian, quiet, and not outgoing. I got fed up with a 9 to 5 that wasn’t fulfilling me emotionally, socially, or monetarily. I discovered the pick up community on the internet and it became an outlet and a savior for me.
I learned a skill set that set me apart from the “average” guy. It freed me from the stereotypes and constraints of being a passive drone archetype and having to settle for second or even third best.
I started probably the first Asian American dating blog, before the whole blog thing was even popular and my career sort of spring boarded from there.
2. There are alot of offensive stereotypes about Asian men that persist today. Do you feel that they can ever become self-fulfilling for Asian men in particular?
JT: I believe both the media and some Asian guys are are our own worse enemies. It’s very easy for Asians to buy into the limiting beliefs that are being fed to them in the media and society. I’ve met a ton of Asians who actually perpetuate these stereotypes and misunderstandings.
I try my best, in my industry, to dissolve these rumors, myths, and stereotypes by being a positive masculine role model so that Asians as a whole, can finally be a confident group.
3. How did you switch careers and then build your media business to what it is now?
JT: To be honest, a lot of what I have learned was through a self-taught, trial by fire method. I read a lot on business and marketing and made a lot of mistakes along the way. I also saw what was working for others, even in different industries, and made it my own. It wasn’t an overnight transition-it was over several years that I was able to build up my image and brand.
4. How long did the process of building your business to what it is today take from when the idea first came to you? Did you have a mentor? Do you have any suggestions for aspiring minority entrepreneurs who would like to emulate your success?
JT: I initially did have a pick up artist mentor, but not necessarily a business mentor. I’m still growing my business every year and have not yet reached my ultimate goals. But from quitting my job as an engineer to actually being able to survive and flourish on a daily basis, I’d say the process took about three years of blood, sweat, and tears and a recession!
My advice to anyone growing a business would be, don’t be afraid to make mistakes!! That’s how you learn the most! Also, you have to be cautious, but no one ever got anywhere by playing it safe. It’s also important to brand yourself right away and see what niche you can fit into.
5. Interracial dating is still taboo to many people. What can be done to open more hearts and minds and create a more open dating arena?
JT: Well, I feel like I’m opening more hearts and minds everyday through my company, it’s message, writing, and speaking. No matter how hard anyone tries, there is always going to be racial prejudice.
For many people, it goes generations deep and will not be undone overnight. I think it’s important to stay positive in my own way as well as open minded to why some people may have these prejudiced opinions. By understanding their motives, I can better assess my approach to dispelling their feeling on the matter.
6. Has the need for your services increased or decreased with the economic down-turn?
JT: When everything started tanking around 2008, I was naturally concerned. In my head I was thinking, “Who’s going to be worried about self-improvement during these times?”
However, I was shocked to see that there was no downturn in my business, there was actually a spike. It’s one of those pleasant surprises that you secretly hope for, but don’t expect. We’ve garnered more positive publicity than most of our peers in the industry.
The media portrays these companies as womanizing,exploitative, misogynists, but we’ve been fortunate enough to being very well received. I’ve been invited as a special guest speaker to Harvard, Yale, and Wharton not to mention being featured on ABC’s Nightline. All of which have been positive and hopefully inspiring experiences. I consider our services a personal investment and I think a lot of guys were thinking the same way.
7. China has a disproportionate male to female ratio, and Japan does as well to a different extent. Why do you feel those inequalities exist and do you see that developing in other countries as well? Does one gender have a mathematical advantage in terms of negotiating? Are you received differently by different ethnic groups or do you have more clientele from any particular group?
JT: A lot of inequality has to do, in part, to China’s One Child Policy. There was a huge amount of female infanticide that will have long lasting consequences not simply today, but in future generations to come. The one child policy is going to catch up to China very quickly because that generation is going to come to maturity around 2020. There is going to be an even larger gap between the number of males vs. females.
There is a long-standing idea among Asians that male children are somehow better-perhaps because they carry on the family name-among other things. I believe this gender gap is going to result in more Asian males traveling to other countries to find a wife simply because there won’t be enough females in their countries.
Our clientele is very diverse. Of course we get a lot of Asian students because I’m Asian. However, we get all types of races and cultures.
8. Do you actively measure a success ratio? If yes, what is it?
JT: A lot of what we teach is immeasurable. Each student progresses at his own pace, some are naturals and some will take a little more work. I can list off who kissed a girl on a bootcamp or which alums have gotten married because of the skills they learned on a bootcamp. But a lot of what we teach is for personal growth and is individual.
To me, success is taking a lot of these shy, socially awkward guys, and making them come out of their shells. It’s amazing to see the progression of success form night one of our class to night three.
9. Do you work with women as well as men, or just men? Would you consider working with other groups such as gay men or gay women or other minority groups?
JT: We already work with a large range of minorities. As for females-what we teach in particular can’t really be transferred over to females. It just doesn’t work. The same could be said for the gay and lesbian crowd. Even though we are teaching men how to approach women, our techniques wouldn’t work for a woman to approach a woman because the dynamics are different.
I think it’s important to be very good at what you do and for me to branch out into other areas of seduction would be a disservice. Maybe in time we’ll branch out to offer different service products, but not now.
10. Have you ever considered matchmaking or hosting a reality program?
JT: Naturally my company gets equated to matchmaking and dating service sites but we don’t do that. I don’t think I’d really like to get involved in that. I like teaching guys how to have choice in whomever they want to talk to. I’ve been approached to do television, but I am a private person. I don’t think I could live with someone constantly following me around with a camera. I like to keep my work life and private life very separate.
Hats off to Jerry “JT” Tran.
Below are a few videos featuring JT Tran. First there’s a story about him on Nightline, then a few videos of him at Yale:
JT on Nightline:
Black women, according to a recent piece by Stephanie Czekalinski, writing for NationalJournal.com and Government Executive magazine, have the lowest rates of suicide in the U.S., and may hold the key to lowering the high (and perhaps rising) suicide rateamong active military personnel.
Injuries incurred by service members are covered by the Veteran Administration. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Black women, correct me if I’m wrong, are more accustomed to enduring hardship across the board, than their more accepted (and acceptable) counterparts societally speaking.
Quoting directly from the piece, “The sense of community among themselves, and the … built-in support that they get from each other is something we’re paying a lot of attention to, and trying to find ways to emulate,” said Jan Kemp, mental health director at the Veterans Administration.
To get more in-depth details on this interesting phenomenon, and to read more, please check out the link below:
I don’t claim to know or understand Creflo Dollar, but he doesn’t appear to be too pleased with his daughter’s behavior or habits as of late.
I’ve watched his ministry program before and was always struck by how Dr. Dollar (yes, the name does rub the cynical a bit the wrong way) and his wife Taffy (spelling?) seemed very professional, on-the-ball, and delivered very good programs.
Pastor Dollar also struck me as condescending at times, but that’s just me. When he was under investigation a few years back for some kind of spending irregularities (along with several other mega church pastors to be fair), it didn’t surprise me. I expected it.
But, at any rate, Dollar’s latest investigation concerns an arrest for allegedly hitting (and/or choking) his daughter. More than just a few news sources have reported on this arrest, so it’s old news by now.
What isn’t old news, is the reality that mega church pastors now rake in millions (if not billions) of bucks that they can’t possibly spend, regardless of how many starving kids from deepest-darkest Africathey claim to feed or how many youth centers they claim to build.
Dr. Creflo A. Dollar (Photo credit: iandavid). An advertisement for Dr. Dollar.
But didn’t Jesus ride on the back of a donkey into town to make a point? Didn’t Buddha turn his back on his father’s material wealth so he could try to learn the truth? I’m all for living well and paying the bills, but isn’t this level of extravagance taking “prosperity ministry” a bit far? I dunno. Maybe if the guy’s name were just something other than Dollar?
Could Dollar be innocent? That his daughter’s bruises really are just eczema, and the accusations of abuse and violence a minor’s overreaction? And the police arresting him without due course or sufficient grounds to do so? Maybe.
I guess the thing is, is it wrong to expect a higher standard of character and conduct from someone who literally preaches on matters of proper conduct and behavior on a daily basis? Of course the man is human and misunderstandings take place, but usually where there’s smoke there’s fire….or at least ashes.
Anyway, here are the links to the latest stories:
In a very recent article by Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor of the Yahoo! Shine network, the author references a piece written by Seth Stephens-Davidowitz of the New York Times about how people will (of course) be more honest in their Google searches than they will be in their surveys.
And, surprise surprise, according to Mr. Stephens-Davidowitz, “the highest racially charged search rate in the country was West Virginia. Other areas with high percentages included western Pennsylvania, eastern Ohio, upstate New York and southern Mississippi,” areas most people would consider to be ummm….a little racist, perhaps? These same areas just happen to be areas where President Obama did not perform all too well in terms of voter turnout.
The conclusion Mr. Stephens-Davidowitz came to, is that “the higher the racially charged search rate in an area, the worse Mr. Obama did.”
Now, maybe I’m missing something on the Obvious Train of Thought here, but it would make perfect logic to me that the geographic regions with the highest search rates for “the N word” would be geographic regions most commonly held to be….ummmm….racist? Am I missing something here that’ supposed to be revelatory in some way or do I need more Earl Grey tea?
At any rate, here are links to both pieces, first Ms. Alphonse’s piece and then Mr. Stephens-Davidowitz’s NY Times piece: